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Nor being played…

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Thank you, Jeffrey Tucker for addressing important Differences/Progressions Between

Fight Club

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Atlas Shrugged.

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Indeed as I remember it, The Club Members of Atlas Shrugged and Fountainhead went thru various forms of Decompression from a world based on Non-Voluntarist Master Slave Domination and Stoicism Paradigms with varying degrees of success…

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What does differentiation yet linked integration have to do with health and liberty? And self mind meld as a practice? Now I understand my interest in Spock…

Fwd: 8 minutes in does wheel of awareness and explains it Watch “”Mindsight and Neural Integration” with Dan Siegel, MD” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/gyq3NZAULc4

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Third Man factor

Two mountain climbers.

The Third Man factor or Third Man syndromerefers to the reported situations where an unseen presence such as a spirit provides comfort or support during traumatic experiences…

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_Man_factor

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From this a possible Work-It-Out that the self is self organizing, relational, emergent, emenated, imagined and blow forward and back neuro plastic embodied aspect of mind energy info brain relationship, with 3rd man factor aspects….

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Watch “Thinking vs Feeling; Needs vs Strategies; Request vs Demands” on YouTube Dr Yvette Erasmus I.E. how to deal with the dress that ate the internet obi one kanobi like

https://youtu.be/hUqgbI4Fs0E

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Here are Doable Emulations* and simple access conduits to BRIDGE

The Fight Club

And

Extra ordinary Benefits AND perhaps Less Obvious Hidden Hazards

GAP

in one’s life.

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My Role Play Sum Up, Tying it ALL Together via The Rainman Dance Progression: 

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Seeing, Guessing Strengths:

In the movie Rainman, when UNskilled communication meets UNcaring non-authentic regard it’s called abuse.

Uncaring / skilled  communication comes across Manipulative.

The plot theme progresses to: Caring / Unskilled Communication, which leads to Miscommunication.

Finally skilled Presence and empathic Caring opens up the felt sense of being seen. (It is a movie…never the less an Illustrative Model of an under played Non Violent Communication model)

Ground upon which needs for E.G. well being, transcendence and meaning can be guessed, and from which relief provided, and upon which strategies for solutions worked out..

Reason speaks softly [when the unseen can be guessed. Observing it speaks loudly. Observing whether oneself has the resources–ok with yes or no vs triggered–to engage in dance is powerful] ~ Sigmund Freud

Watch “Manipulation or Miscommunication?” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/7ZCmyHorbOo

Work It Out  begets this heretical insight:

Watch “Dedicated spaces for having conflicts” on Vimeo:

https://vimeo.com/10778141?ref=em-v-share

Facilitators Pre Circle, would you like to provide such support and vice versa?

https://vimeo.com/user2006436

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I have made some integrated non violent communication connections along the lines of simply: getting untrapped by the what’s wrong, defect management tar baby and what follows i.e. blame, denial responsibility, deserve, diagnosis, must be you, must be me, therefore you or I need to be fixed….before I/you can be friendly…

Instead

And so, what am I feeling that could point me to an unmet need?

Then strategies from there.

E.g. I’m without friends I’m such a looser. Or you’re such a looser. You or I need be fixed

Vs

I observe my real feeling of longing of unmet need. And able to hold that uncomfortable feeling loneliness, staying in orange zone of stretch…whilst holding other good feelings hey I’m sitting with both, it’s a uncomfortable but tolerable.

Instead of rebel or stuff it to look good to society, I’ll ask myself what I’m actually needing that honors where I’m actually at.

Ah I’m needing (valuing) companionship. Then many strategies line up, I’ll call up a friend. I’ll take a break, secede, re-assoc, review my strategies map

Watch “NVC and Triggering Conversations: Strategic Discomfort and Inner Resourcing.” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/NjOuISRbbdc

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Not asking myself to eschew Branden’s critical thinking understanding aspect of problem id, however trick is not to get trapped in what’s wrong…with others and oneself…it’s subtle…

This is huge paradigm shift, fuel actual soaking living in values /freedom / benevolence shift:

Watch “Yvette Erasmus, PsyD” on YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVZoqn6GDWDV4-2KORfCZvg

The following is how I eventually tripped over the above!!

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A simple summary. Five Secrets to High Performance with Michael Gelb.wmv
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTnXUrRlKb0

The bottom line: I was searching for a form of Imaginary Smart Suit: AND proof the mind CAN EXTEND AND ASSIMILATE such a thing as one’s hara or tantian or to put the mind in a relaxed and alert place. Most especially extending into a protaganist or a what if part.

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Reference Notes:
Search results for “Mind body extension”

Miguel Nicolelis: A monkey that controls a robot with its thoughts. No, really.

Can we use our brains to directly control machines — without requiring a body as the middleman? Miguel Nicolelis talks through an astonishing experiment, in which a clever monkey in the US learns to control a monkey avatar, and then a robot arm in Japan, purely with …

http://www.ted.com/talks/miguel_nicolelis_a_monkey_that_controls_a_robot_with_its_thoughts_no_really.html

So when we look at the brains of these animals, on the top panel you see the alignment of 125 cells showing what happens with the brain activity, the electrical storms, of this sample of neurons in the brain when the animal is using a joystick. And that’s a picture that every neurophysiologist knows. The basic alignment shows that these cells are coding for all possible directions. The bottom picture is what happens when the body stops moving and the animal starts controlling either a robotic device or a computational avatar. As fast as we can reset our computers, the brain activity shifts to start representing this new tool, as if this too was a part of that primate’s body. The brain is assimilating that too, as fast as we can measure.

So that suggests to us that our sense of self does not end at the last layer of the epithelium of our bodies, but it ends at the last layer of electrons of the tools that we’re commanding with our brains. Our violins, our cars, our bicycles, our soccer balls, our clothing — they all become assimilated by this voracious, amazing, dynamic system called the brain (mind brain relationship connection see Dr Dan Siegel)

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Problem Statement: The Benefits and Hazards of the Philosophy of Ayn Rand: A Personal Statement

by Nathaniel Branden, Ph.D.

http://archive.is/dLuu2

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Second

Problem Statement:

Watch “Nathaniel Branden …Barriers to Romantic Love” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/lkJRCvItQ9c

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I won’t leave you in anxiousness…

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Here is the Giraffe Ear and Puppet Technology (amongst other Tools e.g. www.capitalism.net/edith.htm and http://m.drdansiegel.com/resources/video_clips/  and https://streetgiraffes.com/interpersonal-neurobiology/  ) I’m Dancing, Progressing Incrementally Improving and Piloting / Prototyping, Working-It-Out, Role Playing that soaks me in a language beyond Branden’s Sentence Completion Adjunct to 6 Pillars of Self Esteem. I’ll get to that…

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Ref: “FULL – Nonviolent Communication Workshop – Marshall Rosenberg (2000) (Multi Subtitles)” on YouTube

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https://youtu.be/UEqmZ2E1o64

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Which also addresses the Second Problem Statement of LOVE relationships Nathanial Brandon summed up nicely…

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If not for Warning by Marshal Rosenberg in link below and the fact I was  working with a very close friend in brainstorming mode I and he would have missed the triggers (understanding the following hazards, which I re-solved to my satisfaction above)…

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“Marshall Rosenberg on domination structures and communication” on YouTube Here>

 https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-2vd8dHwaCM

And Here>

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-dpk5Z7GIFs

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Standing on the shoulders of The Knowledge, Imagination and Creativity–of The Best Teachers; Big Dreams; and Creation of  Power Tools (that–not that Long Ago–did not exist before).

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Here is How I freed myself (ver× ) 1st Aid Emergency Pack (Most Up to Date)

Ref: https://connect.liberty.me/how-i-freed-myself/

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Which begets this heretical insight:

Watch “Facilitating spaces for having conflicts” on Vimeo:

http://www.restorativecircles.org/systems-and-facilitation

And getting ideas from here

Watch “Authentic Communication for a New Culture with Kelly Bryson” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/81q9HFbjEZs

And here

Watch “Biodanza – The Dance of Life” on YouTube

And getting ideas from here Watch “Worldwork with Arnold Mindell PhD” on YouTube

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This article last updated  June 14th, 2017 and is permanently morphing…

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Hollywood and culture is replete with teaching violence as enjoyable. And in the case of the Fight Club blurring the lines regarding Voluntary Subscribers inviting Violence as a way to enjoy themselves without Enemy Images and Anger As If the nice dead person Friendly Image feeling of being awakened, and aroused by being slapped, spanked, whipped, fisty cuffed senseless is a viable alternative and that not too much and not too little violence– i.e. surgical violence etc etc etc– is infact controllable…

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The premise in The Fight Club would seem to be that because it’s my friend and or I am being empathetic–which requires NeoCortex engagement and discernment and the first thing to go out the window–but that somehow one can will oneself not to get angry and or not more violent when in what is called Fight Flight Freeze Tunnel Vision.
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It’s not something individuals typically can do even after years of practice let alone off the cuff…and that even controlled practice rapidly diminishes when either person goes into fight flight freeze mode and the Limbic primitive instinct brain kicks in.
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I’ll pass…either way. I have already a life time of training in fight flight and freeze and the associated enemy images and 4 Ds of Disconneced Communication i.e. Deserve, Demand, Diagnosis and Denial of Responsibility…
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I’ll further comment that the language and culture are replete with Enemy Images, Anger and Violence as the norm. The premise that all of this can somehow be put aside including channeling the adrenaline without practice into Comraderie is as Jeffrey Tucker points out absurd!
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Luckily I need not resort to Immersing myself in Extreme Pain nor Extreme Sadness by watching movies nor emulating such in order to invoke and Enjoy my Empathy Centers and to Feel Alive via my Mirror Neurons, whilst falling to my lowest level of Practice in real life i.e. Due to Failure to Recognize, Innovate and Resolve the Disconnect that comes from The Gaps Between The Benefits and Hazards of Philosophy and Psychology and indeed The Fight Club.
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The way I see it: There is Methodological Ideasynthesia, Immersion and Improv Surfing via Progress by Incremental Improvement and Prototyping (PIIP) Connection with oneself and others–i.e. How I Take, Tell it and Express it: what’s Heard, Observed, Motivating Factors, Feelings, Action Strategies based on what is Unanimously Consentual and Authentically Alive in Both Individuals via Intellectual, Empathic and Political Lens and Bridges.
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I do write about Ideasynthesia and these other aspects such as PIIP and Unanimous Consent in the Vers× Emergency 1st Aid Pack Article with supporting links. (Lots can be gleaned from Improv Surfing most especially myself)
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I now see an aspect regarding The Fight Club as portrayed by Jeffrey Tucker, this *Doing your own thing* Voluntary Subscriber aspect–an under current theme in my writing–which might lead into a study of Bruce Lee and his Philosophy and Systema as it relates to Methodological Individualism of Controlling myself, Spontanous Order AND Feeling Alive that flows from that progression…
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However the problems with Violence, Fight-Fright-and Freeze are well documented and I am interested in inviting the use of the NeoCortex in myself and others, instead of shutting it down, to emanate, and surf the feeling of aliveness from Communication that is Nonviolent and Empathetic without demanding equal effects from unequal causes and trapping myself nor others in despair.
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https://vimeo.com/7230216?ref=em-v-share
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Golden Mean Spiral
Please take your time. Perhaps these ideas, immersions and interactions are, as John Cleese (Monty Python) terms them, “oases” from the punishing pace of the workaday, relationship punishment reward world…

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Reconciling The Last Obstacle to Libertarianism and Identifying a Power Tool to test and incrementally improve Connections
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I was reviewing Watch “Marshall Rosenberg – Making Life Wonderful. DVD1/4 – Nonviolent Communication workshop – NVC” on YouTube
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I posted 3 comments HERE: Where I integrated BOTH Joanna Blakely’s “Lessons from Fashions Free Culture Ted Talk”
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Jeffrey Tucker’s “What’s your Attitude on IP?” And “If You Believe in IP, How Do You Teach Others?”
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as it regards Emulating*, Copying, so called “Sponging off” Innovative Teachers without paying them Money.
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Warning to Whole Foods employees: Quit now. Quit before the Amazon a–hole takeover – post regarding Whole Foods Market Inc. layoffs
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The humans that are still on the floor will be zombies, stocking product on the shelves directed by an Amazon robot. Eventually, the stores that never have customers in them will be shuttered and in those cities, customers will have to buy WFM product on Amazon.com (ha ha!). [Wow, like this rant was not bureacratic shop talk designed to dehumanize ie zombify]

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Finally, an army of killer drones armed with hippy BO and patchouli will hunt down John Mackey and remove him from his perch. Bezos will then teabag him and launch him into space where he can discover what love really is…~M’Lady

[Many bummers, M’Lady’s continues to Reintroduce herself. After reading this I agree with her accurate assessment. I prefer to work on what I control]

https://www.thelayoff.com/t/NQDOUuc

My First Response: [my second response] was added above after I came back and integrated what works and what does work not for me.

Atlases did after all Shrug and leave the Master Slave Domination Punishment Paradigm (in all its forms see Improv Surfing  ) to form a Private Club in Atlantis/Galt’s Gulch (some perpetually mobile, some marine…)
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It was the unique form of US fascism and bureaucratic shop talk, designed to snooker the so called respectable folks that Ayn Rand’s prescient book (Atlas Shrugged) exposed, proposed and prototyped a Peaceful Alternative New Model to–that did not exist before.
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Both The Fight Club and Atlas Shrugged Club members share a Problem that Nathaniel Branden summarized well and where there is indeed room for further Work-It-Outs.
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There are other Problems and Work-It-Outs that I recently shared on Jeffrey Tucker’s Lady of the Lake Article, https://tucker.liberty.me/the-lady-of-the-lake-should-have-opened-a-fruit-stand/ regarding when some hear the word “anarchy” they hear chaos, when they hear “polyamorism” they hear sleeping around.
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Luckily the New Models I provide do not Fight the existing False Alternatives i.e. the quote from M’Lady, and Cover Ups, but do render them Obsolete for me…
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So what’s the Relief and Solution in this case? Such that one is not punching oneself out senseless nor others (*Internally* And Externally), when it is actually counter productive and creates life long messes easily seen in the Fight Club, although less politically correct to say so, regarding The Atlas Shrugged and Fountainhead Club Members yet never the less similar and blaringly so, in front of many–but they miss it or get entangled in the mine field?
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It’s not called the Matrix for nothing and Ayn Rand did have an Atlas Shrugged De-compression room and Oath Swearing before entering levels of Atlantis for a reason.  (Hint it was not because they were too needy nor too sensitive)
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What is/was missing that she hinted at and left to build on–from the unlocked philosophical tumbrils she set in motion–was to provide an opening to be taken up by a Fluid Kinetic Chain (train of conversations mapped out) and connected together by Nathaniel Branden, Tom Szasz, and Carl Rogers culiminating in Marshal B Rosenberg/John Gato Taylor/Darrell Becker/Alex Leach progression that led to the creation of Voluntarist Compassionate Communication. Which I am about to share with you…
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Is it possible to Silently Re-focus on Observational facts; ones Values AND address one’s Feelings–indeed oneself–in an authentically honest, friendly benevolent way when someone does not know what say a Principle is and or what Empathy and or Self Esteem is?
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Is it possible to Translate this interactively in Real Time and or Silently using ones Intellect Vs using it Stoically (to deny and repress) and messes and overhwhelming Suicidal, Tragic Expressions of UNmet Needs (Values) and Strategies that come from such?  (Note very recently a Galt’s Gulch Entrepreneur who succumbed to the Trap)
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How I Freed Myself (ver2), this article, is An on going Work-It-Out, Emergency 1st Aid Package Intro to a Version× Train of Article Links that address these issues–how one gets stuck and unstuck–and that helped me Test Drive, Pilot and Live with a new Language that Nathaniel Branden started with Sentence Completion, but never got to build the full Benevolent Movie Camera Real Time Improv Language. That time is long over due.
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Thank you Jeffrey Tucker and Dennis Lee Wilson for Starting This Brain Storming Work-It-Out Insight and Opportunity that integrates The Best Teachers, Big Dreams, of Bruce Lee, Ludwig Von Mises, Gandhi, Bucky Fuller, Da Vinci, Marshal B Rosenberg, Harry Browne, Wendy Mcelroy, Stephan Kinsella, Doug Casey, Darrell Becker and your selves to Create Power Tools that did not exist before….
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Cheers, AtlasAikido, Mal Roarke…Signatory Covenant of Unanimous Consent…

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And Here

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Boundless

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Wow the video is a real eye opener Blaming | Kind Communication
http://kindcommunication.org/2016/02/06/blaming/

And this

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Robert Gonzales Dwelling in Beauty of the Needs

Intro to beauty of dwelling in the needs. What’s it all about? Yes it’s very good question. I guess for me it goes to the primary the core the heart of what this process is about.

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In NVC everyone knows that what is referred to as human needs or Universal human needs is, is really I believe the central element of this process and I’ve experienced over the years that it’s possible to approach the concept of needs experientially in different ways on different levels and as people learning the process sometimes its learn in a way that puts limitations on the full integration of the consciousness of needs as they’re experienced and expressed.
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So at certain stages a need can be practiced and learned on a level that’s mechanical or on alevel where it is the word only and does not have the full life of it.
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Sometimes people get limited to focusing on the one word, there’s discussions around is this word a need or is that word a need. For me that is an approach that does not open to the optimum way of expressing what the word need points to.
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For me all of the needs that are indicated in the process of nonviolent communication, if we are to say that human beings have an essential natural, for me the needs are the qualitative aspect of what are essential nature is.
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So, we are all by nature compassionate, we are by nature creative we are by nature alive creative we are by nature playful so all of these qualities manifest as human beings and when we actually live Into them and feel them, we feel with them with all our body, with our emotions with the kind of mental clarity that is full and so when we are actually in touch with the living quality of a need we are living into it there is an inherent beauty in them.
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There is a Beauty in the fullness of the need as opposed to the pain we experience when there is a deficiency or lack of a need not being fulfilled so the beauty of the needs refers to that inherent beauty that actually is the inherent beauty of who we are as human beings. And the qualities that what we are acting is fully human. That is from which this beauty emenates and that we live it, we see it, we esteem it in other people. So that’s a pretty broad or general answer. That is the essential answer. The meaning I give to the beauty of needs. And it’s one of the most important skills which is the ability to connect to our deepest longings and yearnings which lead us to the fullness and the beauty of our needs and then to dwell in this beauty, to live it to dwell in it, to receive from others.
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The View I hold around what needs are is it’s essentially the life force that manifest, emanates in a through us as human beings when this life is full and radiant we live in a full filled capacity and when the life force us obstructed for whatever reason then it’s those obstructions that create our suffering and alienation from our own nature so then the second principle is how do I approach those obstructions, those blockages, the alienation. The principle is compassion. Now you can synonymously
use the word empathy, but I prefer the word compassion.

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So when there is alienation seperation disconnection either within myself or between another human being I want to bring compassion to that obstruction so that it allows the liberation of that life thats housed within that suffering state to be freed thru compassion thru empathy. So that’s the second principle.

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Of course with that principle it applies to whole number of consiuosness to develop skills and capacities to actually live the process of c passion and empathy with ourselves and other people.

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So what skills can there be for compassion? Well the primary skill is in NVC is it sounds very simple on surface of it, but I think it has quite profound implications is capacity to differentiate
our thinking from what is. In other words there is a capacity to differentiate our thinking from what we are experiencing authentically what we’re feeling what we’er
Longing. Where are values are. All of that. So when we can really recognize when it is our thinking it’s our story it’s our evaluation creating the pain and the alienation then we have the capacity to then enter into a full comp compassionate way our experience within ourselves and within others in relationships.

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So that capacity to differentiate thinking from feeling. There’s another capacity of which is one of key differrentiations in nvc which is capacity to differentiate thinking and evaluations from what we observe. So that is absolutely key. People get that mixed up that’s the very beginning and what perpetuates seperation miscommunication judgement blame all of that…

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Watch “Skills For Compassion – Nonviolent Communication – Robert Gonzales” on YouTube

The View I hold around what needs are is it’s essentially the life force that manifest, emanates in a through us as human beings when this life is full and radiant we live in a full filled capacity and when the life force us obstructed for whatever reason then it’s those obstructions that create our suffering and alienation from our own nature so then the second principle is how do I approach those obstructions, those blockages, the alienation. The principle is compassion. Now you can synonymously
use the word empathy, but I prefer the word compassion.

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So when there is alienation seperation disconnection either within myself or between another human being I want to bring compassion to that obstruction so that it allows the liberation of that life thats housed within that suffering state to be freed thru compassion thru empathy. So that’s the second principle.

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Of course with that principle it applies to whole number of consiuosness to develop skills and capacities to actually live the process of c passion and empathy with ourselves and other people.

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So what skills can there be for compassion? Well the primary skill is in NVC is it sounds very simple on surface of it, but I think it has quite prions implications is capacity to differentiate
our thinking from what is. In other words there is a capacity to differentiate our thinking from what we are experiencing authentically what we’re feeling what we’er
Longing. Where are values are. All of that. So when we can really recognize when it is our thinking it’s our story it’s our evaluation creating the pain and the alienation then we have the capacity to then enter into a full comp compassionate way our experience within ourselves and within others in relationships.

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So that capacity to differentiate thinking from feeling. There’s another capacity of which is one of key differrentiations in nvc which is capacity to differentiate thinking and evaluations from what we observe. So that is absolutely key. People get that mixed up that’s the very beginning and what perpetuates seperation miscommunication judgement blame all of that…

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compassionateinteractions.com › resources
Faux feelings imply that someone is doing something to you and often connote wrongness or blame
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Watch “Robert Gonzales Guided Meditation: “Compassionately Embracing”” on YouTube
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https://youtu.be/4yj23now1ig

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Watch “Introduction to Awakening and Living our Passion: Living with Compassion” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/cnG_k2OYG_E

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Watch “”Meine Bedürfnisse sind sekundär” – Robert Gonzales – Schönheit von Bedürfnissen” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/f1929xrPpFk

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Re: Empathy and Cultural Differences

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As it relates to response: Nah NVC brave. I feared trying to nvc with xyz she would blow it off as to touchy feely. I was in high pain of frustration internally in exasperation of unable to deal with xyz

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How to get from Connecting Experience to Action Imagination component of Empathy…where a culture does not speak to Feelings or Values…yet provide a journey of Felt Sense (mates, community etc) i.e. connected by being one, hanging out, working out, learning, entertaining with another instead of tv?

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Some already know they belong, that they “matter” i.e culture outside of US or different communities in US.

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So the culture will inform the Empathic Journey you take…so will generate unique pathways from Disconnection to Connection and Connection to Transformative Action…

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So this is the issue for some…

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Many definitions of Empathy. Empathy is a continous Inquiry. A Felt sense of shared life force experience between eco systems, increasingly sensitive, working definition in conflict situ, as a particular focus I recognize as empathic because it removes block to creativity; allows me to reach a stage to re-encounter my source to be able take action. Removes blocking agency so creates change. Opens channels to relevant effective change. Or ability to evaluate change that is not relevant. Keep me on toes to keep adapting it. To me it is like a fuel I need to be resourced with thru out everything I do thru the day. Spoken in present Tense by me channelling another as I experience this as an actor, director, producer in stage of my life.

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The episode is Not considered complete until person’s place of stuckiness or disconnection has a clear  sense of what they’re going to do…

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How is that made possible?

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Mutual understanding of each other’s humaness occurs, when gone beyond ideas that dehumanize each other.

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Moment seeing any shared humanity, sense if similarity between us, then our imagination starts to function again.

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Start to imagine things that can serve us that dont cost the other people and which contribute to them.

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Perhaps no devolped vocabulary of freedom Feelings and meaningful shared Values except very rough references, no time, alot of physical danger around, generalized lack of resources, no opportunity, energy, hope, point to talk except roughly…

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Yet once get past certain point seeing each other as enemies or see each other competing over limited resources suddenly Creativity is there….

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Sometimes very small actions–eye contact or a touch–that can have a very large symbolic effect. I see Empathy as key that unlocks this Imaginative Power to take action that meets shared needs…to act in concert that bring Mutual Benefit..

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How to get from connecting experience to Action imagination component of Empathy?

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I grew up in theater / movies / grandad who was multi millionaire multiple times and realize empathy is the basis of the theatrical experience whether that’s the intent. The Director Louis Jovee says the audience shares the experience of the actor, which was a clue to help Focus on Fact that I have access to that which I focus on. The inner world I focus on…

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Marshall Rosenberg was able to conceptually explain sum up codify simply and surf this in a powerful way and show how this magic process begins and how it is shutdown…it is for those who knew Marshal and had theater experience that had a Felt Sense of a force, a use of Non violent power like Gandhi with the British…

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With this power can begin to dialogue with a monologue of power in your relationships, and transform monologue of hierarchy and monologue of domination and monologue of violence and objectivication of all living forms…

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Everything from theater, social change, healing required a guide [Marshal Rosenberg] to understand what was happening first in Britain then in Brazil for Dominic Barter in his journey/creation with/of Restorative Circles. And now mine Atlas, in my travels in, thru and around the different worlds. Thank you Dominic!!!

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Some Context. Prior -5 WIO, this entry is -6 WIO, came about from this response I gave to a friend:
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Hey, I heard you say that nvc is wimpy, and I guess this is obvious but I chose nvc and I’m just wanting to understand why you would say something like that? What was motivating it?”
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When I practice self-empathy in this situation with you, I connected with, “Oh yeah, this is just the world you move in, this is how you think about things,” it actually allowed me to appreciate other aspects of your personality that I can actually depend on (Strengths)…

 

I’m guessing when you heard the nvc you were maybe irritated or surprised?

 

Maybe you had a need for understanding, or you just were not enjoying it and had a need to enjoy things you hear whilst yearning for competency in a skill you may never get.

i.e. exasperated that behind learning curve/not heard, thus an Edge covering up perhaps vulnerable tenderness, what you fear is “wimpy”…

 

By guessing what you’er feeling & needing — probably for understanding & enjoyment, &  “live and let live” — then I can recalibrate a little bit & not take it personally i.e. blame, should, have to, myself…

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PS (Part 2 of 2)

 

Let me know if this–New Model helps: That does Not Fight the existing but builds a new model where none existed before & makes existing Paradigm (s) Obsolete?

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I trust you remember the origin of the Don’t Fight The Existing, Build A New Model, quotes in msg marked Part 1 of 2…& are enjoying your work it out w Jim & perhaps with an old friend?

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And Sourced from and which addresses Recovering From Reactivity https://streetgiraffes.com/jackalgiraffe-ears/
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Part A# Re: Four **Choices**When Hearing a Difficult Message.

Using Life Training in Competence in Reactive Edges (learning curve)

1. *Consciously* See Judgmental (Jackal) Ears Out
And Blame or Criticize the other person “It’s your fault.” *to yourself*
“You’re bad/wrong.”
“You should____.”
(Voice of Anger) for triggering my nervous system

2. *Consciously* See Judgmental (Jackal) Ears Inward and Blame or criticize yourself “It’s my fault.” *to yourself*
“I’m bad/wrong.”
“I should_____.”
(Voice of Guilt, Shame, Depression)

 

*These steps calm the Reactive self when Consciously Attention to Reacting to yourself & clues you to your Needs Using your current Training Competency LOL and 1-3 steps are about attending to self empathy and Conscious Consent to what is, and what it is to be human*

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Part B#

3. *Consciously* put on Generative (Giraffe) Ears Inward *to yourself*

Connect to your internal experience“I’m feeling__________ e.g scared, annoyed  because I need/value____________. eg self acceptance, quality of effeciency, contribution, choice ”
(Voice of Self-Empathy *to yourself*)

4. *Consciously* put on Generative (Giraffe) Ears Out Connect to guessing the underlying cause of the other’ s communication *to yourself*

“Are you feeling________ because you value/need____________? Eg usually same as you, the more heated the conflict”
(Voice of Empathy can be made streetlike speak i.e  sounds like you want…+ remind self to give Consent to Relationship with yourself AND others that Reactivity is human)

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Response to me: I noticed/caught a phrase or concept in our recent conversation that is a helpful idea for me.

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You mentioned defining or attempting to identify your own self nurturance rather than expecting it from another.

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I will think on that as it has me reflecting on my own self nurturance or lack thereof. Seems good tool to know how to do that for myself , which would help in crafting the request of another to help me meet my need. Or even deciding whether or not to make that request of one not suited to respond.
Thanks. Enriching.

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Thank you for connecting with me! Warm, open, presance. Wonderful and enlivening! Core of the things we’ve shared…in 5 minutes…Wow!

Watch “Dan Siegel – Connecting to Calm” on YouTube

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Also Meant to send this 4 min Watch “Dan Siegel: Name it to Tame it” on YouTube regarding GABA and dynamic of how to access it immediately.

PS He was concurrently interested in the enzyme that allows salmon to go from fresh water to salt. Almost became a salmon fisherman…until he found out how rough that can be…it however spurred him to make the above linked connection!!! The salmon story is part of his Ted Talks…

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Wow. Friend shared a need to fix and do something…and overall angst

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The solution comes naturally once understand being [with together] Vs doing

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“Being” Versus “Doing” on YouTube what is missed till now…Wow wow 1st 4 minutes. Second 4 minutes a repeat of prior post..but worth listening in full context of calm

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Seperate guess: Now I realize why I Role Play so much, it is way for me to connect and have access to Relationships [2] that are core ingredient of Mind Sight: Which consist of Mind [1] Integration [2]…and Insights of inter and intra Relationships [3] What he calls MindSight in Tedtalk. Wow. Wow…

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The part where he describes how pre frontal cortex and mind creates a Mind Map of self and oneself and one of another and compares the two has significance to me. See summing up link…after this intro and sourcing tedtalks.

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Briefly here Watch “An Introduction to Mindsight by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.” on YouTube

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Original tedtalk I substituted https://youtu.be/J-BJpvdBBp4
And this
https://youtu.be/Nu7wEr8AnHw
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Summing it Up, Tying it ALL Together here: 
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Watch “Dr. Dan Siegel: Time In: Reflection, Relationships and Resilience at the Heart of Internal Education” on YouTube

https://youtu.be/CVYd1W4iAm0

 

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My Role Play Sum Up, Tying it ALL Together via The Rainman: 

Connecting Across Differences (Episode 8): Transforming Your Inner Critic | Work Collaboratively

https://workcollaboratively.com/2017/01/29/connecting-across-differences-episode-8-transforming-your-in/

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